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James Nardel asked:


So you’re going to a wedding and you have to make a speech, but you sure as hell know that you don’t want it to be a boring old speech like you know every one else’s is going to be like. You want people to remember your speech and rightly so. It doesn’t matter if you’re the father of the bride, the best man or just a friend wishing the lucky couple well, making a memorable speech and making people laugh will add something to their wedding day.

It’s been said that people fear public speaking more then any other one thing in life. In this article I’m going to give you a few tips I passed on to my brother that you can take and turn your speech into something memorable. With these tips, I assure you, you won’t embarrass yourself in front of the whole wedding party.When it comes to adding humor to your best man wedding speech there are few important things to note. Funny and vulgar are two different things. A lot of people, especially men tend to think that to be funny you have to be vulgar and rude and embarrass the newly weds, this is not true. My brother recently had the honor of being best man at his best friends wedding and the night before the big day, I think he was more nervous then the groom. My brother has always been an out going guy, but when it came to making a best man speech, he just couldn’t think of what he wanted to say and he was nervous as heck having to stand up in front of all those guests and give a heart felt speech.

Tip 1 Stand up while speaking

Always, always stand up when giving a best man speech or a toast. Make sure you have the gatherings attention first before you speak, and the best way to do that is to stand up and wait for quiet. Standing up is the first rule of any good public speaking and a wedding is no different.

Tip 2 Plan what you want to say

Never try and wing the speech. Giving a best man speech needs to be planned and written down well in advance. My brother started working on giving his best man speech weeks in advance. Unless you are a really confident public speaker, this is the best way to make sure you say everything you wanted to say.

Tip 3 Practice makes perfect!

Practice your speech until you know it off by heart. There is nothing worse then giving a best man speech and having to look down at your notes constantly. Fidgeting with paper is a big no no.

Tip 4 Keep it clean

If you and the best man have known each other for a while and you’ve had some wild times together, this is not the time to air his dirty laundry. People think that giving a best man speech gives them the right to embarrass the groom and upset the bride, this is not the case. Don’t mention the trip to the strip joint or anything of that sort.

Tip 5 Keep it short

No one wants to be bored for hours with your speech. Make it short and to the point and don’t forget to add emotion when giving your best man speech. The wedding isn’t about you, it’s about the bride and groom, don’t forget that.

I hope these tips have given you some pointers on what to do when giving your best man speech.If all your preparations fail, I invite you to use free best man wedding speech. Good luck!



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George Chilton asked:


I have been standing up in front of audiences for a very long time, but don’t let that fool you; I still get really nervous when I do it! I find myself ruing the day that I said ‘yes’ to giving that speech, or the day I agreed to perform that magic show, but once I’m engaged with the audience there is no greater feeling and the nerves disappear (”just like that”).

I’ve dealt with audiences of over 500 people, won competitions, and both written speeches for people and given them myself. But, despite that little flicker of terror we all get when we hear the words ‘public speaking’, there really is no magic to it. Even the most nervous person can feel confident in front of an audience, and I would like to share some of my experience with you.

Everyone has to give a speech at some point in their lives and most people don’t want to. Speeches can be nerve-wracking, potentially embarrassing experiences - and, as public speaking sends little shivers of terror careening down our spines, we often try to avoid giving them. But we don’t have to! I’m going to share a few trade-secrets with you. Soon you’ll be giving that killer speech and you’ll have that professional edge you need.

Of course, all rules are made to be broken, but these guidelines are only meant to be structural aids. I want to help you be as original and engaging as you can be, but if you want to do it your own way then remember (to paraphrase Robert Mckee);



The beginner learns the rules

The student learns to break the rules

The artist masters the form.





How to write a speech

Some people say that speech writing is an art-form, and that may be true, but every successful speech has a recipe that includes several key ingredients:

Timing Structure Length

And in order to get these right you need both to plan, prepare and to practice.

Planning

Why are you giving a speech?

You need to remember that every speech you give has a purpose and every speech tells a story.

You should never underestimate your audience; they are an intelligent body of people, and a group makes its mind up very quickly. No matter what genre of speech you are attempting you need to keep your story simple, entertaining and easy to follow.

You need to grab their attention and keep it. A good speech will have people on the edge of their seats; it will affect your listener and it can change their perceptions. Remember, a powerful speech has rhetoric; a brilliant one has the audience.

Prepare before you start

Think about what you need to say before you start writing; know your audience and gauge the tone.

An ill-judged tone of voice will put you on the wrong foot. Public-speakers need to be acutely aware of audience expectation. Not to be too obvious, but a send-off speech at a retirement party will be quite different from an oration at a funeral. In both cases you need to lift your audience, but you wouldn’t want to start telling embarrassing tales about the chap in the coffin next to you. But it is always up to you to judge, and that can be the hardest thing.

You need to ask yourself what you need to achieve. Are you presenting facts and figures? Do you need to persuade your audience - or are they on your side?

What kind of speech is it?

Debating

I experienced some powerful public speaking quite recently. I was in the audience watching three speakers debate the Natfhe strike action affecting University lecturers, students and management.

One speaker presented himself as a neutral party. I cannot for the life of me remember or work out why he was there, another had my support and the other I was quite hostile to.

By the end of the debate I had changed my position completely. The neutral party disappeared into the background, but my initial hostility was turned around by powerful words, an excellent series of points and emotive language. One speaker lost my support; - he gave a planned, but ill-judged speech. He came across as being manipulative, uncaring, and as a genuinely bad-egg.

I am quite sure that this is not the case, but it was a lesson for me - never underestimate the audience, facts and figures do not speak for themselves and the audience, if properly worked, can be changed.

For the professional debater;

List each point or anecdote and use spider-charts to cover extra ideas you may have.

Rank them; choose your strongest points, leave your weaker ones.

Now you can start to structure.

The structure of a speech will depend on your purpose. Here I provide an example for a debate/speech. A send-off speech, best-man speech, speech of thanks, a funeral oration, and so on, will need to be treated very differently.

Each point you have on your spider-diagram has a logical place, list each point chronologically and write your speech accordingly. Keep your points in your intended order; the speech will seem more powerful if it follows a logical progression.

Here’s what your plan might look like;

Five minute speech:

1. Introduce yourself and your position on the topic

2. Outrageous statement - highlight your opponents major flaw.

3. Engage with your audience; address them directly with rhetorical question.

4. Present the facts.

5. Compare your points with your adversary, highlight your strength and their weakness

6. Round up.



You also need to gauge the length. Don’t write too much! As a rule of thumb each page should last two minutes.

You are constantly forming an impression on your audience. Repetition can be a very effective tool, but it can also be very dull and impede the progression of your argument. If you repeat yourself make sure you have a reason.

Practice giving the speech

The better you know your speech the better it will be received. Never, ever, ever read direct from the page. And if you suffer from horrible nerves there are several ways to kill them, but by far the most effective is to adopt a ‘mask’. You are not being judged personally - and you will find it easier if you are an ‘actor’ playing the part of yourself. The moment you disengage with the inhibition that holds you back you will find yourself speaking with flair, you audience will enjoy it and so will you.

It’s up to you to plan, prepare and practice and, if you do, you will succeed. Good luck!



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